Talking to a friend of mine the other day, I expressed my opinion that all single women should consider dating more than one man at a time. She was horrified and thought I was the most awful person in the world.
I have 19 male cousins, 3 brothers, and at least a dozen male buddies. One thing I know is that men do this multiple dating thing as a matter of course.
But women do this almost automatically for some reason. Wow, can you find out his middle name first before you start picking out the dress and ordering invitations? See, having more than one man around keeps you entertained and having a good time with a couple of fun people. Sure, you will meet some men that demand instant and total loyalty from the first date.
Guys that glob on like that are kinda scary, and I would imagine that men feel the same way when women glob onto them.
Men have expressed to me that a woman dating more than one guy at a time is judged A pair and a spare dating site be a player, a hoochie mama, a gold digger that uses men for entertainment. Tell them to get lost! Not only that, every man has special and unique abilities, personalities, and ways of looking at the world.
Why settle for one skill set when you can partake of three? Speaking of three, I think I need to make sure you understand that three is the maximum, not the minimum. Who can juggle more than three guys at a time? We have demanding jobs, school, or children we need to tend to.
We have friends, other social obligations, hobbies we enjoy, and extended families we need to spend time with as well. So if you meet a new guy that really rocks your world, you let one of your other three guys go and replace him with the new dude. Do what you want to do, whatever "A pair and a spare dating site" and makes YOU happy. Tell men straight up: You might ultimately be that guy, but until I spend more time with you and get to know you better, I am going to continue dating a few people.
You should do the same.
Such declarations level the playing field and openly and honestly let men know where they stand. There is no reason for you to assist in perpetuating their fantasy filled delusions by not being straightforward about "A pair and a spare dating site" Pair and a Spare Dating Program.
Veteran social researcher, relationship advice columnist, author and radio host. Author of hundreds of articles on American and black culture, gender issues, singles, dating and relationships. Author of "Sucka Free Love! Her unique voice and insightful commentary have delighted fans and riled haters for 20 years. Read her stuff on SurvivingDating. More Posts - Website. Date Smarter, Not Harder. Subscribe via RSS Feed. I have no problem with women dating as many men as they want to at once, however women dating multiple men should be willing to split the costs on dates.
Why do you care? Men often date more than one woman at a time, how about you split the cost of her vaginal cleaning products? Besides, you would never know how many dates a woman had when she was out with you, unless she told you. Nobody else matters at that time.
Women should never date a guy who is cheap, and perhaps that is why women have more than one guy. They probably have a guy who is generous, and another one who is cheap but maybe has something else going for him.
A guy who is cheap with a scrooge like mentality tends to let that attitude permeate other aspects of his life and is nobody a woman would want to waste time dealing with. I wish both of you well. Sorry if I offended anyone. A bad temper is one of my faults. Dude you should have written that from get go instead of at the ending after she whupped you, I mean, gave you a reality check. I love reading Surviving Dating cause she is so very smart!
How is the love of God being conveyed in your messages? Do you spend time in prayer before you post these vids and articles? We are taught in the Bible that if we allow a root of bitterness to spring up that many will be defiled. I really do want to know your thoughts. Dude, that was done simply in jest, trust me. I was being totally and completely sarcastic. May I direct you to the navigation bar at the top of the page. All the posts are listed there.
My Facebook titles have just about as much religious conviction associated with them as theirs does. No matter what your rationale is you will have to answer for claiming those titles one day. I think you should seriously consider pulling those titles off the web.
As you yourself have pointed out, too many are already being led astray as it is. You believe they are wrong but you will suffer the same fate as them if you continue with this sarcasm. At any rate I still sense bitterness. I was the first to comment on this piece but you say I wasted my time? That is a bit confusing. I would think you would appreciate someone especially a black man taking the time to dialogue with you about your concerns. The sisters are flanked by white men. Now understand, I have nothing against interracial dating.
But after reading some of your posts I have to believe those pics were a deliberate shot at black men; who you seem to have a lot of contempt for. You obviously want and need love preferably from a black man? We all need love. You have a voice and passion. Please use it for A pair and a spare dating site good. We could all benefit from that. Answer to who exactly?
And what is going to happen in your estimation? Just as nothing A pair and a spare dating site happening to any of these crook ass pastors that yall are following like the Pied Piper. I will do what I want to do and you and no one else will tell me what to do or how to do it.
Secondly, get off the bitter word. All you church
A pair and a spare dating site have one vocabulary word. I am not bitter at all because I have nothing to be bitter about. As for the photo, who cares? My blog is not exclusively about Black people, and I cover interracial relationships as well.
If you want to take a photo on one website personally and get all bent out of shape about it, that is your choice. It never ceases to amaze me how Black men think everything is supposed to be about them and show them in a good light.
If I want to slam anyone, I do it quite openly. Yes, I have contempt and even disgust for the behavior and attitudes of many many Black men. But the ones that behave in the ways I am condemning, most certainly.
The fact that you are worrying about who is getting into my bed is funny to me. Black men always worrying about what women do with their pussy. Leave it alone because its none of your business. I am a warrior, not here A pair and a spare dating site be kissing the butts of men. That is not an empowering mindset to have. Perhaps you could walk into Blood territory wearing all blue and claim to be a Crip? That cop will take you at your word.
See… people have a tendency for better or worse to believe people are what they say they are. Thy take advantage of peoples belief in them. Oh well if people are dumb enough to take people at face value without investigating then they get had just like those Eddie Long congregants and all the rest of those folks sitting up there in these big mega churches drinking the religion koolaide and blindly following these charlatans standing behing a podium and using religion to swindle people out of their money.
Only stupid scaredy cat people function on this level. Highly intelligent, independent and analytical thinkers like me and others are much too smart to fall for this crap. Bible thumping Christians are some of the dumbest people in the world.
Shoot do I hear you whining about former rapper Ron who now calls himself Rev Ron? He even had his own reality show. The Pair a Spare Dating Program - why every women should date two men with a spare for rotation. Forget that one man at a time mess! Until then, do it. What I call “a pair and a spare dating program,” involves keeping 3 men in rotation until such That is why I think the best policy is for all women to date more than one guy at a time .
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